Little Moments Make a Big Impact

Big Brothers Big Sisters help create meaningful relationships that can impact a child’s life for the better. A story was shared with our staff about how a small thing can make a huge difference in the life of a Little. A Little was so excited to explain to one of our staff members that they had “one of the best times of their lives” kicking around a soccer ball with their Big. When the staff person disclosed to the Big that the Little was excited about this interaction, the Big was very shocked! To the Big they were just playing an ordinary game of soccer, but to the Little it was an experience that they probably won’t forget. You may not always realize the difference you’re making when participating in small activities like this, but to a Little just being a friend can mean the world. 

If you’re struggling with ways to connect, try incorporating the 5 Healing Gestures:

1. Celebrate - It’s the little things that count! If you’re playing a game, acknowledge their effort.
   
2. Comfort - Be consistent with your support! If you start a mentoring relationship, see it through. 
3. Listen - Active listening can make someone feel heard and valued.  Remember the things they share with you, and follow up on the topics at a later time. 
4. Collaborate - Working together! If a Little expresses an interest or a goal, help them explore their options on what it will take to achieve it. 
   
5. Inspire - Uplift and lead by example! Always use positive and encouraging words when communicating. 

Big Brothers Big Sisters ensures that our volunteers are well equipped with the proper tools and support to start and maintain a positive relationship with their Little. A Big will be introduced to their Little by a Match Support Specialist, and they will help assist the volunteer and family with ideas for activities, or give support if any issues arise. Here  are some helpful resources provided by BBBS to contribute to a purposeful relationship, specifically included are some useful tips and tricks to mentoring. For other helpful mentoring tips and resources specifically for teens, click here. 

There’s always curiosity surrounding what a positive mentoring relationship looks like. When mentoring youth, the little things can go a long way and make a significant impact. Things like trying new experiences together, asking about their day, or just being a shoulder to lean on when they’re going through a rough time can make a beneficial difference to a young person. When thinking about a positive relationship, I’m sure a few good friends come to mind, and that is what a mentoring relationship should be as well.